Jesus Shows Us What Real Love Is | Why Did Jesus Die? | Week 1

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Jesus Shows Us What Real Love Is | Why Did Jesus Die? | Week 1
Pastor Dave Pretlove

  1. Jesus died to reveal the Father’s love.
    • Romans 5:6-8
    • 1 John 4:9-10
    • Because Jesus Died, I never have to doubt that I am greatly loved.
  2. Jesus died to teach us how to love each other.
    • 1 John 4:11
    • John 13:14-15, 34-35; 15:12-13
    • Ephesians 5:1-2, 25
    • Because Jesus died, the bar of loving well has been raised.
  3. Jesus died to capture our hearts.
    • 1 John 4:19
    • Because Jesus died, loving him back just makes sense.


Scripture To Meditate On

“You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Since we have now been justified by his blood, how much more shall we be saved from God’s wrath through him! For if, while we were God’s enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of his Son, how much more, having been reconciled, shall we be saved through his life! Not only is this so, but we also boast in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”
Romans 5:6-11 NIV

Group Questions

  1. How have you experienced love recently? Or share a memory of a moment you felt really loved.
  2. We’re exploring this idea that Jesus died to show us what real love is. How do you think our culture has distorted love or confused real love with a counterfeit love?
  3. On Sunday, we talked about how Jesus died to reveal the Father’s love, to teach us how to love each other, and to capture our hearts. Which of these are easy for you to understand? Which one is a struggle for you?
  4. Read Romans 5:6-11 aloud. The author, Paul, is concerned that the reader would know more fully what the love of God means and that we would have an assurance of our salvation. How does this section provide you with certainty of God’s love and your salvation?
  5. We may understand why Jesus died and understand his love for us, but it’s another thing to allow that understanding to transform our lives. In John 13:34-35, Jesus says, “A new commandement I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another” (ESV). What’s one way you’ll allow this to transform how you live and love others this week?
  6. Pastor Dave said, “Because Jesus died, loving him back just makes sense.” What are some ways we can overcomplicate loving Jesus back? How can this group help you take one step closer to loving Jesus more?

Something To Think About

I think most of us want to be kind and loving people. But if our kindness and love doesn’t lead to the real love of Christ, I’m not sure that it’s true kindness and love. So how do we live a life devoted to the real love of Christ?

Theologian and author, Marva J. Dawn, when writing about 1 John 4:8 once wrote, “Can we grow in love by trying to love more? No, our attempts to love will only end in more frustration and less love. The solution, John implies, is to know God better. This is so simple that we miss it all the time: our means for becoming more loving is to know God better.”

Our attempts, outside of Christ, to love others will end in frustration. Our attempts, outside of Christ, to express kindness will just end with less love. As we know God better and as we experience his love more intimately, we can begin to live out of that overflow and extend his real love to those around us. So this week, love others by knowing God a little better each day.

Lydia Long

A Spiritual Practice To Try

This week, try practicing a prayer of self-examination. You can do this as you’re beginning your day or ending your day. As you begin, ask God to search you (Psalm 139). Here are some questions you can ask God and bring to a time of prayer:
  • Where was I most aware of God’s presence today?
  • When did I experience the most joy today?
  • Where did it feel like God was absent?
  • When was I the most drained?
  • When did I experience God’s real love? When did I love someone out of the outpour of that real love?

In-Depth Bible Study

Grab a couple of friends and spend some time in 1 John 4, specifically verses 7-21. Maybe commit to memorizing 4:9-10 together. Ask, pray, and journal about these questions:
  • Who is speaking? Who is being talked about? Who loved first? Who is “we” in verse 14?
  • What keywords or phrases are being repeated? What example shows us God’s love in action?
  • When is this taking place? Is there a significance of time or pattern of events here?
  • Where is this taking place? 
  • Why are these instructions being given? Why do we love God?
  • How can we love others when it’s so hard? How does God abide in us?
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